Long time no talk! Last time we spoke, I was wrapping up work at my previous company, wedding planning, and enjoying a week off before jumping into my new job. It has been a crazy past 4 or so weeks, so bear with me as I adjust to my new job and commute. Ian and I are currently living in my hometown saving up for our wedding.. and hopefully a down payment for our first home, so our commute is a bit on the long side. Almost 4 hours a day to be exact. SO as I said, please be patient with me posting on here. I am still trying to get myself into a routine 🙃
Other than trying to get into a routine that involves posting more on here and working out regularly, and quite honestly… struggling to do so, I have been working on wedding planning. I wish I could say that it’s going swimmingly.. but it’s really not. If I am going to be completely honest, I feel like I have made zero progress and have 10,000,000 things to still do. Wedding planning honestly feels like a job in itself. Perhaps that is why people hire wedding planners?
I have made some progress though. Since we last spoke, I found a photographer whose work I really loved so I met up for coffee with her to see if we would jive. There were a few red flags I sensed when talking to her, but I think I was so ready to be done with searching for a photographer that I just wanted to like her. Her work was beautiful and she was actually available on our wedding date (a date most photographers are already booked on).
Fast forward a few weeks, a $1000 deposit later, and we were all set to go with our photographer. I had finally checked something off of my never ending to do list. It felt great!
Unfortunately, I should not have ignored my gut feelings. The photographer we booked emailed me this past Monday letting me know that she accidentally double booked our wedding…
I will not lie to you all, I was pretty angry. I was upset with myself for ignoring the redflags I saw during our coffee chat but also upset that she had taken as long as she did to figure out that she was already booked.
So we scrambled. We googled and scavenged Instagram for photographers available on our date. Email after email, I received the same generic “congrats on the engagement, but I’m already booked.” email. It was disheartening to say the least.
It wasn’t until I was on Instagram looking at our venue’s geotag that I found a photo from a photographer based near our venue. As I had with all of the other photographers I reached out to, I tossed an email his way with little to no expectations that he would be available.
Within five minutes of me sending my email, he responded and informed me that he was indeed still available on our date. We then exchanged a few emails and decided to meet up at Starbucks this past Friday to talk more about his work and what I am looking for.
In the meantime, two other photographers responded to my emails saying that they too had 10/10/2020 available, so I was sure to schedule interviews with each of them. I didn’t want to make the same mistake I had before and jump at the first photographer available.
Well, Friday came along and Ian and I made our way over to Starbucks to meet with our potential photographer, Matt. He was sitting at a table with his laptop ready and two photo albums out for our viewing. He was organized, excited, friendly, and really passionate about his work.
I flipped through his albums as he told us about his start in photography and how much he has grown over the years. His work was beautiful and I found myself stunned that I had full confidence in his abilities. He had his act together.
After an hour or two of chatting, Ian and I said goodbye, hopped in our car and began asking each other what we thought. We both really liked him and simultaneously believed that he was the right choice for us.
Wedding planning has been a journey. I have no idea what I am doing and am just trying to figure it all out as I go. For my friends who are unmarried, here is what I have learned from my photography search:
- Look for photographers that match your style. Do you want more candid photos? Posed photos? Bright and airy photos? Darker and moodier photos? All these preferences matter and should be shared by your photographer.
- Start looking for a photographer ASAP if you care a lot about who takes your wedding photos. If photographs are very important to you, start your search early!
- Pay attention to the responsiveness of your photographer. I am not saying that all photographers need to respond within 5 minutes of you emailing them, but having a photographer that doesn’t leave you hanging for 10 days on read is definitely confidence breaking. You want to work with someone who cares not only about their work, but you! After all, this is kind of a big day for you and your soon-to-be spouse.
- Meet your photographer and make sure that you gel with them. You need to feel comfortable with them as they snap photos of you and your loved ones on your wedding day. You also want to be sure that you both are on the same page with what you want from your photos.
- Really ask your photographers questions about themselves and their work. Why are they doing wedding photography? Is it because they just hated their other jobs and thought wedding photography would be “easier”? Or is it because they fell in love with photography and found themselves being engulfed by weddings and the memories made during them?
- As you expect your photographer to be prompt in responding to your emails and/or calls, you should do the same for them. Be sure to not leave your photographer hanging as you put off booking them. Not only is it just considerate of your photographers time, but it also is a good way to prevent your photographer from booking with someone else.
Okay, so those are just a few tips I have for those of you searching for a wedding photographer to capture your big day. If any of you reading this have any other tips, please do leave them in the comments below
Wedding planning can be stressful, but it is also a lot of fun. Talking to Matt about our big day and the plans we had helped us to see the excitement in wedding planning. It was a chance for us to sit down and envision our day and all of our loved ones celebrating with us. For the first time, all of our loved ones will be in one place – and I just can’t wait!
I hope that you all enjoyed reading this post. If you would like to see more wedding related posts, please let me know in the comments below. I also am working on a few exciting posts for the next few weeks ahead, so I am very excited to post more on here 🙂